Why you should trust your gut — Dr. Julie Gurner
How can you diffuse negative emotions? Cut beneath them.
Dr. Julie Gurner knows how to help you achieve your potential. She’s a psychologist turned performance coach with high net worth clients.
Our favourite fact about Julie is that she started her career working in a maximum security prison.
In this two-part interview we discuss:
Why you should trust your gut
How to defuse fear
How to tell if someone is lying
What you should learn from criminals
How to plan serendipity
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What we loved
How to diffuse fear
Fear is a symptom of what you're really concerned about.
Fear is the anticipation of a problem you haven't had yet. Maybe it’s a problem you've had in the past, but it's an anticipated problem.
To address that anticipation and to get rid of the fear we have to cut beneath the emotions we experience to diffuse them.
Are you afraid of taking that leap in your startup because you might not make any money? Well, let's talk about making money. Let's talk about why you’re worried about that. Let's talk about your planning around that.
Most people get stuck in a negative emotion — and that's where they live. They don't say, what's creating this negative emotion? Where's that coming from? I want to really dive underneath that [and diffuse it].
Here’s a question for you: what negative emotions are you stuck in and what’s beneath that emotion?
This segment from the first part of Julie’s interview should be hear alongside Haseeb’s first interview (Apple Podcasts, Spotify). As a former poker pro, he’s lived and dealt with fear closely as has an interesting framework for how to think through it.
This clearest connection between both is that Haseeb talks about “a relatively small number of things” from which fear “really stems from” — which seems related to Julie’s idea of “cutting beneath the emotions we experience”.
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How can you manage your emotions better? Haseeb Qureshi gave a stellar interview (Apple Podcasts, Spotify).